Me and my girl and boy, raising awareness and acceptance of autism

The title would sum up our day today. Both T and D were feeling better,they therefore had more energy to be unempathetic with each other.

I’ve also found T to be more literal than usual, everything has had to be calmly explained to him.

Here’s an example of our day:
D is crafting her little petal dolls.
T suggests in his very direct way that she is doing it wrongly.
D gets offended, tells T that he is just like xxxxx (a bossy child at her school) and shouts and stomps upstairs.
T withdraws in his quiet, angry shell, eventually manages to say what’s wrong and then cries.
Meanwhile D is wailing upstairs. One parent to each child.
Same calm tactics used for both.

Because they are so alike in so many ways – apart from intellectually – this happens a lot. Each wanting to do it their way, each getting frustrated with the other. Each needed separate calming mechanisms. T will bounce, D will stomp and shout.

Not helped (of course) by the fact we had to nip to the shops. Plenty of distraction tools on the way, D on her ipad in the buggy, T and I joke-telling to lighten the moods.

And it seemed to work, we tend to visit the shops in the mid-afternoon as it’s quieter, this was D in the supermarket, waiting for me to complete the checkout process:

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A pit-stop in our favourite coffee shop, which fortunately wasn’t busy and then home. More bouncing required for T, more crafting for D.

Hopefully tomorrow will be easier.
Comments/RTs/shares as ever welcomed, thanks for reading Jx 😘

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Comments on: "Return to literal unempathy Sat 25th May 2013" (2)

  1. Great plan to visit the shops during the quieter time of the day. The joys of siblings! πŸ™‚

    • Indeed, we always try and go when it’s quieter and yes…siblings! Add autism to the mix and only 18 months between them and it can be challenging.
      Hope your day goes well πŸ™‚

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