Me and my girl and boy, raising awareness and acceptance of autism

I can’t lie, parenting a special needs child or children is challenging and exhausting at times.

This is especially so in the case of a child with a mental health disability, one that cannot be seen. I must add that I have total and unreserved admiration for those parents/carers of those with physical disabilities.

Probably the most difficult aspect to deal with is other people’s reactions, those who have no experience of these “invisible disabilities”, those conditions that cannot be seen. We, as parents to those children, rely on people’s understanding and empathy. It’s not always forthcoming, unfortunately, the stares/comments/whispers and sometimes directly rude comments are too familiar when SN parents attempt to do what every other family does – a trip to a supermarket, for example, can be a sensory-ridden experience, ending in overload for the child.

Yesterday social media was full of an ill-judged and downright ignorant comment by someone who held a position of power, someone who decided to make the the most vile of comments because he was “het up” and “hot under the collar”, someone who had been elected to represent people.

His name is Collin Brewer and here is the original article.
Trying to justify his comments that disabled children “should be put down”, he said

“he had hoped his comment that “disabled children cost the council too much money and should be put down”, would provoke a response and a debate into the issue of service costs provision, but said he “did not get the reaction he wanted”.

“Sometimes people can catch you on the wrong day. It’s not a good enough excuse and I will forever be apologising for what I said.”

The reaction he wanted? What on earth was he hoping for? Agreement? I was having a conversation with my T this morning about world history, he was asking about the actions against the Jews and what possible justification there could have been. I told him it started off as one man with very extreme views and I’m sorry, Mr Brewer is not only extremely ignorant but very misguided.

The fact it took FIFTEEN months for him to apologise speaks volumes and he’s only just resigned – see an article from this morning here – and he claims he’s received support, from who? People who believe what he said is justified, because he happened to hold a position in public service? People who go home to their families, with their children and grandchildren?

I don’t think I have ever been so furious with someone I didn’t know personally, I pity him today. I pity his ignorance and I’d like him to explain how someone can say something so vile merely for a reaction.

I’m going to end with a post I did back in July, all these beautiful, happy children pictured here are registered disabled, there are no further words – click here for the post.

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Comments on: "Collin Brewer – unbelievable comments in the 21st Century" (9)

  1. Missus Tribble said:

    I don’t know if you saw the piece I wrote about this vile man yesterday? Something that came to mind as a comparison between compassion and ugliness is a conversation I once had with the staff nurse I worked with in a nursing hom: one of our residents was in such terrible pain all the time that it was very hard to hide my tears from him, when he screamed in agony – if there’s one thing I can’t bear it’s other peoples’ suffering and the inability to take it from them.

    I asked the staff nurse if wishing that [name] would die quietly in his sleep made me a horrible person. “No,” she said. “It shows your compassionate nature”. He was a lovely man who didn’t deserve to be hurting the way he was.

    What Brewer said was the complete opposite of compassion; it was disgusting and hate-filled bile and I hope that it haunts him every day for the rest of his life.

    The resident *did* pass peacefully in his sleep. No more pain, no more feeling helpless; I was very happy for him.

    • Thanks, I’m going to find your piece now. That’s a wonderful example of compassion, was having similar discussions with other SN mums yesterday.
      The fact he took all that time to apologise speaks volumes. Horrible man.

  2. It’s sad that such an extreme belief exists, I wonder if Stephen hawking or any other ‘genius’ who is wired differently that makes huge leap in their field of knowledge because their disability allows a different way if thinking would they be missed if they were ‘put down’! Of course just as anyone else would, every person has ability even with their disability to affect there environment for the better!!! Thanku for writting about this man with extremist views

  3. I suppose he provoked controversy, if that was his goal. But I can’t imagine what he hoped to accomplish. I wrote a post for parents of my special needs clients about insensitive things people say http://www.spectrumpsychological.net/1/post/2012/06/that-kid-needs-a-spanking-insensitive-things-said-to-parents-of-children-with-autism.html

    Hopefully, this outrageous comment does help awareness of the issue. Shame on him.

    • Couldn’t agree more. If he said it purely to get a reaction than he either definitely doesn’t think before he speaks or genuinely believed in what he said.
      I think the biggest indicator was the length of time it took him to apologise.
      I’ll read your link too, thanks 🙂

  4. downssideup said:

    Sadly his further interview with Disability News Service after his re-election, was all too chilling and impossible for him to explain away. Brewer has had strokes and I suspect is suffering from dementia, but for his safety and our sanity it should never have got this far.

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