that you would not judge based on initial impressions
that you would realise that she is not lazy if she is in a SN buggy, she feels “safe” in there.
that you realised that staring, pointing and whispering affects her whole family. We notice even if she doesn’t.
that you appreciated how much effort it takes her to sit still in a busy restaurant with the noise that that generates. If she flaps that is her way of dealing with it.
I wish that you took the time to make yourself aware of autism.